Loving and Longing
Such is the Christian life. Full of love and full of longing. Graciously receiving all good gifts from our good Father, and looking for and hastening the coming of the Lord Jesus. Let us look to Christ with contentment and expectation.
This was originally written before the birth of our fourth son. Now that we are expecting our fifth in a month or so, I’ve decided to share again. I’m still living in the loving and longing.
We are expecting our fourth son within a week, and I’ve been filled with thankfulness and excitement as the day draws near. I’ve been reminded that God fills our life with good gifts. James says, “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above” (James 1:17). I love these good gifts from God. Yet I know that these good gifts are temporary. My wife, my house, my children, my job. Each one of these could be taken from me in a moment. Each one of these could bring me happiness or grief. And often that is how it is: the thing that once brought the greatest joy, brings also with it the greatest heartache. So on the cusp of the birth of my fourth son, I’m torn. Torn between loving and longing.
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Helping Children with Anxiety
Feeling anxious is part of living in a broken world, and God weaves those feelings into his providential plan for our spiritual growth. As we mature, our feelings of anxiety may abate, or they may swell. What runs constant is God’s call to trust him and act in the context of our feelings. Simply listening to our kids express their feelings is a great way to ease their burden by assuring them of our non-judgmental presence.
It takes time for us to realize we aren’t made of glass, that shattering isn’t imminent, that God can always bring us through to the other side—no matter what hellish things we experience. Time teaches us. In fact, for any person of faith, time is the only tutor.
But kids don’t have time yet—at least, they have more ahead than behind. Each day holds out threats without the assurance of safety, let alone the promise of strength for having weathered hard things. And so, for kids, fragility comes naturally. They see their smallness in a wild world. A tiny scratch demands a Band Aid. The sidewalk cracks threaten their bicycle tires. Honey bees have daggers attached to their abdomens. The world is big. Children are small. Dangers abound.
As parents, with more time behind than ahead, we go through seasons when we feel confident in God’s sovereign care, maybe even impervious to harm (or at least ignorant of it). But the longer we live, the more quickly we spot this feeling as a momentary illusion. We lose a parent. Our highschool friend dies of spinal cancer at thirty-one. A Yellowstone mudslide wipes out a bridge as if it were built of toothpicks and glue. Health issues crop up like weeds in everyday conversations. The world is uncontrollable. And though we’re more confident in God’s control than we used to be, we’re still small. And dangers abound.
Maybe that’s why nearly 20% of the American population battles an anxiety disorder, including yours truly for the last 16 years.1 I’ve written about my own anxiety war in Struck Down but Not Destroyed. But I’ve also had the joy of being a parent for nearly 9 years, which means I’ve had to take what God has shown me about anxiety and use it to help my own children. I approach them with deep empathy, as one whom the Lord has shattered and put back together many times. Let me offer what I’ve learned so far and then point you to some resources I’ve found helpful along the way.
What I’ve Learned
1. Kids are very perceptive.
While children deal with their own fears and worries, they’re also watching you, taking cues on how they should respond. As parents, we tend to think it’s best to shield our children from our anxiety, and there are times when that’s appropriate. But shielding them and denying the presence of anxiety teaches them to do the same. That’s unhealthy, and it’s unbiblical. The psalmists didn’t bottle things up; they poured everything out. That doesn’t mean you should pour out your soul before your kids each day. But it does mean they should see it’s okay that you deal with fear and anxiety, too, and you do something about it: you turn to your heavenly Father in prayer. You read his word. You walk by faith. You believe. Showing them what to do with anxiety is much healthier than modeling denial.
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Two Cheers for Religion
I understand why we might want to distance ourselves from religion, but it would be better to redeploy the word than to reject it. We risk giving people the wrong impression about Jesus and affirm unbiblical instincts about true spirituality when we dismiss “religion” as antithetical to the gospel.
Religion is one of those words that has undergone a decisive transformation in recent years. Religion used to be a generic category or even a positive synonym for the Christian faith, but now many Christians speak of religion as something harmful and destructive of true Christianity. For many evangelicals, religion is about trying to earn God’s favor. Or, more broadly, religion is about a stultifying system of rituals, dogmas, and structures.
In short, religion is bad, the gospel is good, and following Christ is positively not a religion.
Obviously, if the choice is between the gospel and religion, I’ll take the gospel. But what if by relentlessly denigrating “religion,” we are creating as many problems as we are trying to solve?
If I can be so bold, I’d like to put in a good word for religion — if not three cheers, then at least two. Toward this end, consider the following observations:Castigating “religion” is a relatively new way for Christians to speak. John Calvin wrote “The Institutesof the Christian Religion.” Jonathan Edwards wrote on “Religious Affections.” Pastors and theologians, especially in the age of awakening, often wrote about “revealed religion” or “true religion” or “real religion.”
What if by relentlessly denigrating “religion,” we are creating as many problems as we are trying to solve?
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What Does the PCA Believe About Homosexuality?
On Claiming Sin Identities: “To juxtapose identities rooted in sinful desires alongside the term “Christian” is inconsistent with Biblical language and undermines the spiritual reality that we are new creations in Christ… we name our sins but are not named by them.” (2 Cor. 5:17). (AIC HS #9).
“Article 7 says it is a Sin to Adopt a Homosexual Self-Conception.”– PCA Pastor Greg Johnson
This statement very clearly explains the PCA’s position with regard to Homosexuality. In this quote PCA Pastor Greg Johnson explains what the Nashville Statement Article 7 means. The Nashville Statement is the most concise PCA position on homosexuality. It is not the intent of this article to reconcile anything that Greg Johnson has said or written with this statement.
The purpose of this article is for my people. These are answers to questions that I am being asked by the people in the congregation where I serve due to the public nature of things in the news regarding the PCA. This is not to imply that this is the worst sin, or even worse than other sexual sin, nor is it the totality of PCA teaching or positions on Human Sexuality, a Biblical Sexual Ethic, Marriage and Family. It is needed, as the PCA AIC Report says because “this is the very place where the world is attacking the Church in our culture.” THE PCA AIC report is the most in-depth explanation of our beliefs on these topics. The Nashville Statement is the most concise.
So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus. –Romans 6:11
It is important to say up front that nobody in the PCA is attempting to say that Gay Marriage or Homosexual sex is anything but Sin. Nobody in the PCA is trying to ordain “practicing gay pastors.” It is also important to say that there is hope in the Gospel for people with every sin struggle. This is not somehow the one sin that God hates worse than any other. Christ says to everyone of us “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.” (Mark 8:34)
The PCA position on Human Sexuality, Marriage, Gender, and the family derives from Scripture. The teachings are consolidated and explained in our Constitution and other approved documents where Scripture is referenced extensively.
The PCA ConstitutionWestminster Confession of Faith (WCF)
Westminster Larger and Shorter Catechisms (WLC, WSC)
Book of Church Order (BCO)Documents Declared Biblically Faithful by the PCA.
PCA AIC Human Sexuality Report (AIC) (Approved 2021)
Nashville Statement (NS) (Approved 2019)5 Summary Statements of the PCA’s Teachings on Homosexuality
Homosexual Sex, Lust, Desires, and Inclination is Sin (WCF 6, WLC 18, 25, 139, NS 2, AIC #4-6– entire report)
Marriage is only between 1 man & 1 woman. (WCF 24, BCO 59-3, NS 1, AIC #1)
Sex is only allowed within the bounds of Biblical Marriage (WCF 24, NS 2, AIC #1)
There are only 2 Genders (NS 3-7, AIC #2)
No language should be used to claim a Homosexual Self-Conception. (NS 7, AIC #9-10 & AIC Biblical Perspectives Section)12 Clarifying & Supporting Statements from Our Documents
1) On Being
“We deny that adopting a homosexual or transgender self-conception is consistent with God’s holy purposes in creation and redemption.” (NS #7)
PCA Pastor Greg Johnson explains that “Article 7 says it is a Sin to Adopt a Homosexual Self-Conception.”
2) The Seriousness of THIS Sin
“As the natural family is a fundamental unit of human society and is the normal means of care and nurture, all sins which threaten, undermine, or marginalize it are both spiritually dangerous and detrimental to human flourishing.” (AIC, p 4)
3) On the experience of Same-Sex Attraction
“the experience of same-sex attraction is not morally neutral; the attraction is an expression of original or indwelling sin that must be repented of and put to death (Rom. 8:13). (AIC HS #4 – Desire)
4) On Orientation Language
“However, insofar as the term orientation carries with it a set of assumptions about the nature of that experience that is unbiblical (e.g., overemphasized rigidity, its normativity, etc.), then the terminology may require qualification or even rejection in some circumstances.” (AIC HS, p. 31)
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5) On Being Predisposed to Any Sin
“This corruption of nature, during this life, does remain in those that are regenerated; and although it be through Christ pardoned and mortified, yet both itself, and all the motions thereof, are truly and properly sin.” (WCF, Ch 6)
6) On Unwanted Desires
“…impure thoughts and desires arising in us prior to and apart from a conscious act of the will are still sin.” (AIC HS #5 – Concupiscence)
7) On Claiming Sin Identities
“To juxtapose identities rooted in sinful desires alongside the term “Christian” is inconsistent with Biblical language and undermines the spiritual reality that we are new creations in Christ… we name our sins but are not named by them.” (2 Cor. 5:17). (AIC HS #9 – Identity)
8) On Sinful Identity Markers
“it is still inappropriate to juxtapose this sinful desire, or any other sinful desire, as an identity marker alongside our identity as new creations in Christ.” (AIC HS #10 – Language)
9) On Clinging to Old Adam Identities
“We are best served in our sanctification by looking forward to our new creation selves, which will be fully purified from sinful desire, rather than by looking backwards to our Adamic, fallen selves.” (AIC HS, p28)
10) On Sanctification
“The goal is not just consistent fleeing from, and regular resistance to, temptation, but the diminishment and even the end of the occurrences of sinful desires through the reordering of the loves of one’s heart toward Christ.” (AIC HS #7 – Sanctification)
11) On Our Union & Identity in Christ
“Christians ought to understand themselves, define themselves, and describe themselves in light of their union with Christ and their identity as regenerate, justified, holy children of God (Rom. 6:5-11; 1 Cor. 6:15-20; Eph. 2:1-10).” (AIC HS #9 – Identity)
12) On Repentance, Hope, Rejoicing
“We affirm that the entire life of the believer is one of repentance… Nevertheless, as we call ourselves to the evangelical grace of repentance (WCF 15.1), we see many reasons for rejoicing (Phil 4:1)… Most importantly, we give thanks for the gospel that can save and transform the worst of sinners – older brothers and younger brothers, tax collectors and Pharisees, insiders and outsiders. We rejoice in ten thousand spiritual blessings that are ours when we turn from sin by the power of the Spirit, trust in the promises of God, and rest upon Christ along for justification, sanctification, and eternal life.” (AIC HS #12 – Hope and Repentance)
Again, for a full understanding of these issues, please read the PCA AIC Report and the Nashville Statement. THE PCA AIC report is the most in depth explanation of our beliefs on these topics. The Nashville Statement is the most concise. Links above.
And finally, a concluding warning and a beautiful thought:
9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. -1 Corinthians 6:9-11
What About the Overtures? Check out these resourcesHere is the summary video from the Class we did at Meadowview on the PCA’s AIC Report on Human Sexuality.
George is Senior Pastor of Meadowview Reformed Presbyterian Church (PCA) in Lexington, NC. This article is used with permission.