I’m grateful to P&R for sponsoring the blog this week. They wanted to ensure you had heard about a new book on apologetics titled Every Believer Confident. The book “simplifies apologetics and empowers Christians to effectively present the gospel in all its glory and rationality.”

There are, indeed, some new Kindle deals today. You should also check out Westminster Books where they’ve got a deal on Gavin Ortlund’s new book about disagreeing but remaining friends.

(Yesterday on the blog: Lest We Drift)

Melissa has a good one here. “God uses all kinds of means to refine us, to make us more like Jesus. And there isn’t much that will cause us to cling to Him more than the unexpected. We often feel afraid, cheated, angry, and alone when our visions of what would be are shattered. Once we are operating in the heartspace of what could have been, well, it takes time for us to begin to see God’s work in us.”

I had never heard of the band Stillcreek until yesterday, but then basically listened to their music on repeat. They are singing their way through Psalm 119 and doing so beautifully. I have linked to the first song here, but look up the EP on Spotify or Apple Music or whatever you use.

Stephen always asks good questions. “Here’s a question for the church as it stands in the shallows of the post-Christian beach in the West: Are we simply preparing ourselves for an orderly returning tide of faith, or are we preparing ourselves for a returning, tumultuous spiritual tsunami that will upend our practices, challenge our assumptions about reality and refuse our neat categories?”

I know I have linked to quite a few articles on sports betting, but I do so because I’m so concerned about young men getting sucked into it. “Don’t be fooled by how destigmatized sports betting has become. Just because you can now do it on your phone from the comfort of your suburban living room, as opposed to in the dimly lit, smoky Vegas casino, doesn’t mean the dangers are less real. The less seedy, more acceptable ‘brand’ of sports betting today is what makes it so concerning.”

“My friends talk a lot these days about how to spend more time with others in person. We sincerely wish we could be more present with the people we care about most. And we all acknowledge that our screens get in the way. We want to be personally attentive, but battle the incessant magnetism of our phones.”

What a great thing it is when being a Christian makes you a better man. This article comes from the mission field but could apply to any believer.

The trees that reach the highest heights had better be certain their roots reach far into the ground where they can be stabilized and supported, where they can drink deeply and grow strong.

It is better to pray often with brevity than rarely but at length.
—D.A. Carson

Every now and again I jot down a thought that I’d like to ponder but that I don’t intend to tease out into a full article. Over the past few weeks, I have jotted down a series of thoughts on being a dad. I hope there is something here that benefits you or gets you thinking as well.

Your children will learn from you more than anyone else how a father is meant to treat his children and how a husband is meant to treat his wife. The words you speak about these subjects will pale in comparison to the ways you act. Your children are always watching and always learning. Live accordingly.

One of the great privileges and callings of being a dad is bearing the greatest responsibility for your children’s spiritual development. Yet many dads neglect this to their shame and their children’s peril. This most certainly involves ensuring you are all attending a sound local church and involved with it. And it most certainly involves the close discipleship of knowing their spiritual state and of teaching and training them in the Christian faith. Dad, there are many people and forces eager to disciple them away from the Lord; make it your purpose to disciple them toward him.

Family devotions is a wonderful opportunity to grow in knowledge and obedience together. The benefit is in the habit and the repetition—in committing to many years of sharing this experience together. Dad, take the lead in this best of all habits.

One negative word about your daughter’s boyfriend/fiancé/spouse may prove far more significant than a thousand positives. So be effusive with your praise and cautious with any criticism. Criticism will sink down deep.

It is the jurisdiction of dad, and dad alone, to declare when a bottle of shampoo is empty. Only he has the requisite skill to ensure it has been used to the last drop and only he has the right to declare when a new bottle can be opened.

Sons are especially prone to believe that dad is displeased with them. If it is not true of all sons, it is true of many sons. They need to be assured that they are beginning to become men and to gain the trust and confidence of their father. So be sure to provide plenty of words of encouragement and affirmation. Whatever else your son knows, make sure he knows that you love him and are proud of him.

Our God is lavish with his love and so often surprises us with the abundance of his provision. In just that way, it is the joy of a dad to provide for his children and to give them not only what they need, but also far more. It is a joy and a privilege (and perhaps even a duty) to surprise and delight them.

For all the fatherly joy of giving gifts to his children, what children benefit from even more is their father’s time and approval. Time together is a wonderful gift that reaps many blessings and benefits.

It may be wise to establish a pattern of taking your children out individually, whether for a meal, activity, or event. These special times with dad will display your love for your children and build beautiful memories together.

Being a dad will teach you a lot about the fatherhood of God. It will teach you about your own folly and God’s wisdom; it will teach you about your own sin and God’s forgiveness; it will teach you about your own disobedience and God’s unbreakable love.

One of the best ways to display your love for your children is to love their mother. After all, there is no one on earth they love more than her. Their respect for you will increase according to your love for her.

Don’t take it too hard when your children—tweens or young teens especially—say they dislike or even hate you. They don’t really. They’re just in one of the hardest phases of life and grappling with difficult social, spiritual, and biological realities. Pity them and pray for them.

It ought to ultimately fall to you to be the leading disciplinarian in the family—the one who establishes the situations in which discipline is warranted and the kind of discipline that will be meted out. Yet whenever you discipline and however you do it, ensure you do it in love and self-control. There is never an excuse to overreact to their sin.

When you sin in front of your children, apologize to your children. While it may feel like you are losing their respect by apologizing, you are actually regaining the respect you surrendered when you sinned against them in the first place. There are few better traits you can model before them than the humility that says, “I was wrong. Please, forgive me.”

The love of a daughter for her father is one of the sweetest and most precious loves the world can know. The love of a father for his daughter is one of the fiercest and most gentle loves the world can know.

Tell your girls they are beautiful. Tell them earnestly. Tell them often.

Tell your son you love him. Tell him earnestly. Tell him often. Tell him when looking him dead in the eye.

As you look back on life, you may well find that some of your greatest memories as a dad will be sitting in church beside your family. So learn to enjoy those moments now rather than only in retrospect. These are the halcyon days.

Sometimes, as your children get older, you need to let them make decisions for themselves that you consider poor or unwise. And that is okay (provided they are not utterly depraved decisions). You can be there to help them if and when the decision brings about tough consequences. This is one of the ways they will learn to navigate life.

It is wise to form relationships with dads whose children are farther along than yours and to ask them key questions—questions that may range from matters of discipline to enduring your children’s puberty. You can also give them free rein to speak with you and address any weaknesses they may see in your parenting.

Being a dad gets even better as children grow older. While you may wistfully remember the days when your children were young and in your home, being a father to grown children is a blessing all its own.

Today’s Kindle deals include all kinds of good books. We’re being spoiled so far this month! Pastors will benefit from The Shepherd Leader; academics will enjoy Divine Impassibility; general readers will enjoy books on Catholicism, discipleship, and freedom from lust.

(Yesterday on the blog: The Continental Divide of Doctrine)

This is quite the long and interesting article! It explains a new kind of idealism the author calls Gay Space Fascism. “A potent mixture of technophilic transhumanism, social traditionalism (within limits), and Nietzschean vitalism, the rise of Gay Space Fascism can ultimately be traced back to one man: Peter Thiel.”

A few years ago the church needed to be reminded that depression and anxiety are not necessarily caused by sin. Casey McCall believes that today the pendulum has swung so far that we need to be reminded that depression and anxiety actually may be caused by sin.

“In 2024, Oxford’s Word of the Year was ‘brain rot’—a term that perfectly captures the endless scrolling and shallow consumption that have dulled our ability to think critically. And while it might be tempting to accept the common ‘kids these days’ generational snobbery and resign ourselves to a future as helpless, anxious, doomscrolling victims, I want to encourage us to see this as an opportunity.”

Rachel uses chopping onions (without causing tears) as a helpful metaphor.

John Piper answers what is actually quite a common question: Should Christians read fiction that involves magic and sorcery such as Lord of the Rings and Harry Potter?

This article holds up the priority of humility in leadership. “How many church leaders wake up every morning and plead with the Lord to save their ministry from themselves? Probably not many. We tend to underestimate the pervasive, pernicious, and powerful presence of pride in our hearts and to undernourish the grace of humility. As a result our self-confidence grows.”

A friend of mine recently went to be with the Lord after enduring a long battle with leukemia. In his final weeks, as his strength slowly faded away, he told his family that he wished he could write a book titled What To Do While You Wait To Die. 

The fear of God is the death of every other fear; like a mighty lion, it chases all other fears before it.
—C.H. Spurgeon