Ray Van Neste recently appealed to pastors to ensure they don’t neglect the children in their preaching. “Preacher, don’t assume children can’t or won’t listen,” he said. “Many things will escape them, but they understand more than we give them credit for.“ Hence, “you should speak to the children in your sermons.” I very much appreciated this word of exhortation as it reflects something I have been trying to emphasize in my own preaching.

Van Neste offers a few good reasons to speak to the children. I thought I’d complement this by offering a few examples. I’m no master and have had mixed success, but each of these examples seemed to go over well. The keys, I believe, are to 1) clearly let the children know you are speaking to them, 2) to provide a vivid example followed by a simple application, and 3) to not try to accomplish too much in a single illustration. I try to aim the illustrations at children between 8 and 12. Of course it’s fun to watch everyone, from the youngest to oldest, perk up and listen intently when I speak specifically to the kids.
Dad’s Drone
This first example comes from a sermon on “blessed are the pure in heart.” Part of what it means to be pure in heart is to have a heart that is undivided or fully committed to the Lord. This is how I attempted to illustrate that.

Kids, I’ve got a question for you. Have you ever seen anyone flying a drone? It’s kind of fun to watch, isn’t it? We’re used to seeing the world from the ground up, but a drone lets you see the world from the sky down. It’s pretty neat.
I want you to imagine that one day you’re watching your dad fly a drone. That sounds like the kind of thing a dad does, right? No one has ever seen a mom fly a drone! Dad’s taking that drone way up in the sky, and recording some neat videos, and taking some pretty pictures, and maybe flying it in some fun patterns. But then something strange happens—another guy shows up and it turns out he can control the drone too. So dad sends it this way, but that guy sends it the other way. Dad tells it to go lower, but the other guy tells it to climb higher. That drone has two people controlling it and now it’s swerving all over the place. You know what’s going to happen? That drone is going to crash. Your dad needs to walk over to that other person and pull the cable out his controller and say, “This is my drone and I control it.”
Jesus once said something kind of like that: He said “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.” No one can serve two masters just like no drone can obey two controllers. Each of us can ultimately be controlled by just one thing or one person. The question each of us needs to ask—and this is true whether we’re kids or grownups—is this: Am I going to let God control me? Or am I going to let someone or something else control me? To become a Christian is to put our faith in Jesus and to say, “God, I want you to be the boss in my life. I want you to control me. I want to live the way you tell me to live.” Have you done that? Have you handed the controls to God and said, “I am yours.” That’s what it is to be a Christian.

The Dog
Here’s another one that came from a sermon on “blessed are the peacemakers.” In this one I was attempting to explain that even though we are called to bring peace between people who are in some kind of disagreement, we also need to exercise wisdom to ensure we are not meddling.

Kids, I’ve got a proverb for you to listen to. Some proverbs are kind of hard to understand, but not this one. I am pretty sure you can figure out what this one means. It’s Proverbs 26:17. Here’s what it says: “Whoever meddles in a quarrel not his own is like one who takes a passing dog by the ears.” Imagine that one day you’re out at the park and a big dog walks on by—he’s not on a leash, and you can’t see his owner anywhere, and he’s got one of those big collars all covered in metal studs. He’s just a big old dog. Do you think it would be a good idea or a bad idea to walk up him, grab his ears, and gave them a big pull? I think that’s a bad idea. You’d probably get bit! You don’t take a passing dog by the ears!
That’s how the Bible tells us to be careful not to meddle in a fight that’s not our business. We need to be very careful when we see other people arguing or fighting that we don’t meddle, that don’t get involved in something we know nothing about and can do nothing to fix. We need to wise to when we can help and when we can’t.

The Zoo
This example comes from a sermon on “blessed are those who mourn.” I was speaking about mourning the ways we ignore God’s warnings to us, whether those warnings come through Scripture, conscience, or the Spirit.

Kids, if you go to the zoo, you’ll see that the alligator enclosure is surrounded by signs and warnings and walls and fences. Why? Because alligators are dangerous! If a pit is full of bunny rabbits and guinea pigs and cotton balls they don’t need to warn people away from it. But alligators are dangerous and hungry.
And God shows us how dangerous our sin is by warning us not to commit it. There are so many ways God warns us away from sin, so many opportunities he gives us to do what is right instead of what is wrong.

I then went on to explain some of these ways, though I suppose that as I did so, I transitioned into speaking more to adults than to kids.
Solomon’s Folly
This one came from a sermon about Solomon. I didn’t come up with an illustration outside the text, but decided to use Solomon’s folly as a means to appeal to the kids to put their faith in Jesus.

Kids, I know I’ve talked for a long time, but I want just 2 more minutes from you and then we will be done.
I want you to think about something: When Solomon became king he had everything he needed to be the greatest king ever. He had an awesome dad who was called “the man after God’s own heart.” He was taught by the greatest teachers. God made him the wisest man ever. He had all these years of peace so he could make his country strong. He built a beautiful temple so he could worship God. He was richer than everyone in Toronto all put together. Everyone loved and respected him. He could have been the greatest and godliest king the world has ever known. But he wasn’t.
Why? The Bible tells us. Because his heart was not wholly true to God. His heart didn’t love God all the way. He had room in it for other gods, other things he loved more than God. He had so many privileges, but threw them away.
And I want you to know that you have a lot of privileges too. You are living in a great city in a great country. You get to learn from great teachers. Your parents read the Bible and pray with you. You come to church and GraceKids where you hear the gospel. Those are all good things—but those won’t keep your heart true to God. To have a heart that’s true to God all the way you need to put your faith in Jesus and ask him to forgive your sins. Have you put your faith in Jesus? Has he forgiven your sins? And then you need to do what Solomon didn’t do—God told him to read his Bible, to read it all throughout his life, and to obey it. Solomon didn’t, and that’s why we read about him falling into such terrible sin. Will you read your Bible all of your life? That’s the way God will speak to you. He will tell you how to live in a way that is wise, in a way that will keep you from harm and bring glory to God. I pray for you all the time and I know the other pastors pray for you all the time that you will grow up to have a heart that is fully true to God for all of your life.

A Few Handfuls
Anyway, I hope you find something in this that is helpful. Perhaps it will give you a couple of ideas as you attempt to reach the kids through your preaching.
Let me conclude with an endearing little quote I found some time ago as I was reading through the collected works of F.B. Meyer—a quote I’ve attempted to apply to my own sermons. “Would that preachers would contrive to drop a few handfuls on purpose for the weary little listeners, whose eyes would glisten if their story were to be dropped into the discourse,” he said. “And the parents would be proud to explain that ‘our minister always thinks of the children.’”

Our friends at 10ofThose are having a nice sale on the new boxset of Ryle’s Expository Thoughts on the Gospels. If you buy one you’ll save a good amount off the list price, but if you buy two the savings increase a whole lot more. It may be a good way to account for two of the people on your Christmas list.

Today’s Kindle deals include a book for apologists, one for evangelists, and one for parents. And more besides all that.

Tim Keesee tell how he’s running his race with the finish in view. “More than once, I’ve had such close calls with death that I felt the thinness of the wall between this world and the next. Those moments on the edge of my mortality — whether underwater or in a war zone — were at first breathtaking with suddenness and then sobering with what-ifs. But I was too busy living to think much about dying, and soon those close calls were in the rearview mirror.”

The world needs more gentle men! “Gentleness is often misunderstood. When we think of a man being gentle, we might picture some guy being weak or timid, but that’s not what gentleness truly means. In fact, gentleness is a strength of character—a willingness to humble ourselves and put others first, even when we have the power to act differently.”

I agree with this—that we need to be willing to produce something average if we ever want to create something better than average. “Even if most of what you make is poor, produce enough of it and you’ll find diamonds in the rough. Over time, your average will become excellent. And failing that, what you consider poor might be some people’s version of brilliance.”

I found this a really sweet article in which Melissa Stearns explains what she would say to her husband’s first wife (who died from cancer) if she could. “I’m incredibly thankful to the Lord for allowing me the privilege of stepping in to care for Andy, Evan, and Abi. The Lord gave me the desire of my heart to care for them, and I’m so delighted. Your friends and family have rejoiced with me and my friends and family at God’s plan to put us together. We have a lot of fun. We talk often of you. We rejoice in how the Lord is faithfully caring for us in what is an impossible situation apart from Him.”

Alan Shlemon: “Articles like this are an example of the challenge Christians face. Not only are wolves within the church working to lead believers astray, but prominent media sources are repeating the falsehoods of false teachers.”

We don’t need to remember everything we read, but we should remember at least the best of it. To that end, Jonathan offers some helpful tips on retention.

Somehow I can live to impress people I barely know while being apathetic toward people I know the best and whose lives are deeply intertwined with mine. There is something about home life that can breed arrogance and apathy, entitlement and hostility.

We should use all our money for the Lord. This is, we should use all our money in a way that God would approve. In that sense, all of our money is to be given to the Lord. Stewardship is to be total, not partial.
—Wayne Mack

This week’s blog is sponsored by Fieldstone Counseling. Fieldstone Counseling is a biblical counseling organization based in Northeast Ohio, offering both in-person and remote counseling services. Fieldstone exists to engage life’s experiences with biblically-based, Christ-centered, and clinically informed counsel.

You know you’re an old parent when you find yourself giving quips and quotes that your parents gave you. My kids tell me all the time about how they love my little sayings here and there:

“Are you working hard or hardly working?”

“If you fail to prepare, you prepare to fail.”

“Don’t put off tomorrow what can be done today!”

One of my favorite sayings that I hear often from older generations is:

“An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”

Meaning, a bit of proactive care on the front end can save you a lot of heartache (and potentially money) in the long run. I find this especially true when it comes to counseling. Often, we think of counseling as reserved for only the most complex or chronic of problems–marriages on the brink of divorce, severe mental health issues, complex parenting situations. Yes, counseling can be helpful in those areas, but it’s also true that counseling can be helpful in the earlier stages of a problem as well.

Counseling provides a context for you to speak and be heard

Sometimes, it’s helpful to speak with someone and be heard. In a culture that is dominated by loud voices and big messages, sometimes your personal story of sin and shame, suffering and sorrow gets lost in the mix. When did you last speak with someone about what was on your heart? When was the last time you had the chance to talk to someone about something of essential importance in your life? Counseling can provide that!

In Scripture, we see ourselves clearly for who we are–sinners and sufferers in need of God’s grace and mercy.Share

Counseling can help you see early signs of danger

I’ve been told that early detection is the key to many of life’s physical health issues. A friend recently told me that I need to keep an eye on my rising blood pressure as that could be an indicator of cardiovascular issues. Trust me–I’m taking his counsel very seriously. Similarly, counseling can help you process and receive biblical guidance and truth on issues in your life before they become overwhelming or life-dominating.

Struggling with every day, low-level anxiety? Stuck in a rut at work and struggling to find meaning and purpose? Why not seek a wise counselor to work through these issues with?

Counseling can identify blind spots

In speaking and being heard, counseling can also help you identify those pesky blind spots in your life. What you might see as a difficult relationship actually ties back to a past hurt or trauma in a previous relationship. That persistent feeling of loneliness could be connected to insecurities about being rejected or abandoned by friends and loved ones. The bad news about blind spots is that they can cause serious accidents if you ignore them. The good news about blind spots is that an accident can be avoided simply by being aware of them.

Counseling can help you connect the truths of Scripture with the troubles of life

What happens in the counseling room? I think you’d be surprised at how simple and straightforward counseling actually is. We speak to each other from the heart, and then we seek to connect those important realities to the truth of who Christ is and the hope offered to us in Scripture. In Scripture, we see ourselves clearly for who we are–sinners and sufferers in need of God’s grace and mercy.

In light of this, take a moment and pause. Is there something in your life right now that you could use some solid, biblical counsel on? Is there someone in your life right now that you need help navigating difficult dynamics with? Take that ounce of prevention now–consider reaching out for help. Fieldstone Counseling is a biblically-based, Christ-centered, and clinically informed counseling center that offers its services to people looking for lasting hope for life’s hardships.

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