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Audio Transcript
Today’s email is from a friend of ours, a listener named Matthew who lives in San Antonio. He has thought up a creative way to get us into the tricky thicket of end-of-life decisions. Here’s what he wrote: “Pastor John, thank you for this podcast. I know from listening to the podcast for years that you are very hesitant to speak to specific end-of-life decisions because they require so much wisdom from medical professionals and because every life is so different. But we have nearly endless medical advances we can take advantage of now to prolong life. So I’d like to ask my question strictly within a hypothetical I made up:
Imagine a forty-year-old, middle-class Texan who is a regenerate, Bible-believing Christian man and has been married to a godly Christian woman for eighteen years. He’s diagnosed with aggressive terminal cancer and has two options before him, neither of which he likes or favors, but one of which he must choose.
1. If he does nothing, he lives a relatively normal life for one more year.
2. With aggressive treatment and three surgeries, he will live for four years, and those years will be less than pleasant.He has modest life insurance. His gracious employer will continue to employ him and pay his salary, plus one year after he passes. So he will have two to five years of income. He has two kids, ages sixteen and twelve, and it’s unclear if they’re believers. What, if any, biblical principles would inform your own choice between these two options?
As I have reflected on this hypothetical, I think it sounds very plausible, very real. I’m sure it’s happening multiple times every day like this. I have seven observations or principles to take into account when facing these two scenarios that he laid out.
1. Pray for Healing
First, I would pray. I would ask my friends to pray in either the one-year scenario or the four-year scenario. I would ask them to pray for my healing. I would not ask for this, probably, if I were eighty-five, because in this fallen world the death of an octogenarian is more or less normal — that is, it’s God’s plan that we die rather than live forever in this age. But at forty, death is much more unnatural and intrusive, and therefore it is more fitting, it seems to me, to seek God for the miracle of healing.
The decision to pray for healing does not dictate whether I choose to get the aggressive treatment or not, because God can heal me without it, and he can heal me through it. So the choice to pursue aggressive prayer for healing does not decide which option I go with. I would pursue prayer for healing in either case.
2. See Prognosis as Probability
Then I would keep clearly in mind that both scenarios — the one-year and the four-year — are human probabilities, not certain destinies. If you choose the one-year scenario, you might feel miserable instead of good for the entire year. If you choose the four-year scenario, you might feel better than you ever dreamed you could for those four years, in spite of all the surgery and chemo. You are only dealing with human probabilities.
“Prayer is the glorious wild card, and God may answer in dozens of ways we don’t expect.”
And when you stir in prayer, you are opening yourself to the fact that God may turn the one-year scenario into a four-year scenario, and he may turn the four-year scenario into a one-year scenario. Prayer is the glorious wild card, and God may answer in dozens of ways we don’t expect. So when I say that both scenarios are only probabilities, I am saying that not only may humans be wrong, but doctors may be wrong. But God has infinite options at his disposal for how you spend those years.
3. Face Death with Trust
Next, I would remind myself that both death and suffering for the Christian can be for our good. They are evil in themselves in the sense that they are contrary to God’s original perfect design, but in God’s providence both death and suffering serve his children.
Death serves his children by introducing them to immediate fellowship with Christ, which Paul says is far better (Philippians 1:23). And not only that, but facing death joyfully, square in the face, may be a compelling witness to our family, to our children, and to others. It might bring them to Christ.
“Facing death joyfully may be a compelling witness to our family, to our children, and to others.”
Suffering, like Paul’s thorn in the flesh, can serve us by keeping us humble, deepening our reliance on the Lord Jesus, and enabling us to glorify his power in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:7–9). Like death, suffering endured with deep, joyful, tearful confidence in Christ may be a compelling witness to our family and to others.
So, it’s important not to play death and suffering against each other, as though one is intrinsically more likely to be a blessing than the other. We don’t know that. Either one may be a greater blessing than the other in our lives and in the lives of our family.
4. Commend Christ’s Sufficiency
Both the one-year scenario (feeling good and dying early) and the four-year scenario (feeling bad and living longer) could be used by God for the salvation of our children, the strengthening of our wives’ faith, and the magnifying of Christ among medical professionals, church members, and lost neighbors.
We cannot predict with any certainty whether our willingness to face death early or our willingness to suffer long will have the greater force in commending the all-sufficiency of Christ to sustain us. We don’t know. God could use either one to save our children and others.
5. Fight Satan with Grace
Neither the one-year scenario nor the four-year scenario need be presumptuous, as though we are taking God’s prerogative into our own hands by choosing. We will need God’s help in both scenarios.
Satan will threaten us in the shorter scenario with fear, anger, and worldliness in how good we feel. He will cause us to focus on the coming day of our death next year. He will tempt us to be bitter and angry, and our faith will not survive without the sovereign help of the grace of God.
And if we choose the longer scenario, more life could mean more misery. Satan may have a field day causing our bodily and mental weaknesses to make it almost impossible for us to do the kind of spiritual warfare we have to do in order to persevere to the end. We will not make it through this suffering to the end without the sovereign grace of God sustaining us and carrying us.
6. Be Fed by Friends
In both scenarios, I would mobilize a team of trusted and loved Christian friends who would pledge, as much as they’re able, to walk with me through either scenario to the end. I have in mind not only daily prayer for me — that my faith not fail, the pain not overwhelm me, the absence of pain not result in my worldliness — but also that these friends would feed me the word of God regularly, whether through emails, mail, texts, phone calls, or visits.
As Matthew 4:4 says, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.” That’s especially true as we walk up to the edge of eternity. I will need the word of God. I need somebody to look me in the eye and say to me, in the name of God: “God has not destined [you, John Piper,] for wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ, who died for [you] so that whether [you] are awake or sleep [you] might live with him” (1 Thessalonians 5:9).
7. Treasure Christ in Life
And finally, I would keep in mind that neither of these choices is a choice to hate life, or to commit suicide, or to allow anyone else to perform euthanasia on me. Life is a glorious thing — now and after death and, best of all, after the resurrection in the new world with Jesus.
But even so, I would cherish the gift of life now, and I would seek not to waste it. Whether for one year or four years, whether I’m feeling good or feeling miserable, whether death is tomorrow or years away, I would seek to treasure Jesus Christ above all things and to bring as many people with me as I can into the everlasting enjoyment of his presence.
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Eager Compassion in Practice: Five Ways We Help the Poor
The last of the apostles, Paul, noted in Galatians 2:9–10 how happy he was that the earlier apostles assigned him two tasks: missions and mercy ministry.
When [they] perceived the grace that was given to me, they gave the right hand of fellowship to Barnabas and me, that we should go to the Gentiles. . . . Only, they asked us to remember the poor, the very thing I was eager to do.
That’s a different reaction from what pastors often get when they ask congregants to remember the poor. A few are eager. Others ignore the call altogether. Many respond reluctantly, like all of us do at some point when growing up: Do I have to? I can understand the reluctance. Some people insist that they first have to remember their own families. They are struggling to make ends meet. Some are working two jobs. I sympathize with them.
I’m more critical of some others.
Less Compassionate Conservatism
For two years during the nineties, I went on more than a hundred flights per year to promote community-level projects to help the materially poor. As a “platinum medallion” Delta customer, I frequently had free upgrades to first class that left me sitting next to skilled and wealthy doctors, lawyers, and other professionals. I would ask what they thought about their tax bills. “Too high.” I would then ask, “What if you could lower your tax bill by committing ten percent of your work time to direct help for those living on the other side of the tracks?” Oh. They typically responded with words like these: “Hmm, paying up isn’t that bad after all.” Few were eager to remember the poor.
“In our middle-class and wealthy churches, we may talk about remembering the poor, but do we mean it?”
Remember, that was during the nineties, a blessed decade in American life. From 1991 (when the Soviet Union disintegrated) to September 11, 2001, we believed we had no enemies in the world that could trouble us. The economy was generally good. By the end of the decade, the federal government had a balanced budget. (We should repeat the words “balanced budget” three times while clicking our ruby slippers because now that seems like a fairy tale.)
If many people of means did not want to remember the poor then, how likely is enthusiasm now, when callous conservatism seems to have driven out compassionate conservatism?
That’s only one of our problems.
Do We Really Mean It?
A new book by David Bahnsen, Full-Time: Work and the Meaning of Life, notes that in the past two decades suicide and drug overdoses are both up thirty percent. One out of six American adults regularly takes antidepression medication, and (coincidentally?) one out of six prime working-age men (ages 25 to 54) is not in the workforce. And “volunteering is on the decline,” according to an NPR report just before Christmas.
Again, I’m not criticizing those who are working two jobs or are overwhelmed with family needs. Our lives have different seasons. Besides, all of us are spiritually poor. We all need help. But for anyone who has a couple of hours a week available to help the materially poor, including many widows and orphans, including women facing a crisis pregnancy and not knowing how they will survive, including others who are heavy laden — it’s worth remembering that Paul did not just talk about helping those poor: he was eager to help them.
In 1948, when Harry S. Truman was president, South Carolina senator Strom Thurmond vehemently attacked Truman’s call for ending racial discrimination by the federal government. A reporter noted that Thurmond had faithfully supported President Franklin Roosevelt, who had said pretty much what Truman was saying. The reporter asked Thurmond, “Why are you being so critical?” Thurmond replied, “Truman really means it.”
Today, in our middle-class and wealthy churches, we may talk about remembering the poor, but do we mean it?
Five Ways to Encourage Eagerness
Some people see preaching the gospel and helping the poor as competitors for time and treasure: choose one or the other. That’s not true. If we are truly grateful for the grace given us, we will eagerly tell others of that grace, not only in word but also in deed, not only with words but also with dollars, and not only with dollars but also with our time.
When gratitude for the gospel awakens eagerness, church leaders need to have practical programs for remembering and helping the poor. Here then are five practical steps that we can take to encourage eagerness.
1. Start really small.
First, when congregation members don’t know how to swim, start them in the shallow end of the pool. Do not proudly proclaim, “We will work with the long-term homeless.” No, many of those are the hardest to help, and the frustrations of trying will leave many people uneager to try again. Instead, start with children in grades one through four who are falling behind in reading. That puts them in danger of dropping out of high school and becoming ineligible for most jobs. Listening to little children read demands patience and the ability to say, “Good job.” They’re not threatening, and success there leaves helpers eager to move on to harder tasks.
2. Distinguish unable from unwilling.
Second, remember the poor by not treating them in a one-size-fits-all way. Two centuries ago, the mayor of Boston, Josiah Quincy, made a good tripartite distinction. Some among the poor are “able” (ready and willing to work, and thus needing a job, not alms). Some are “unable” (and thus worthy of alms). Some are able but “unwilling.” Church volunteers are likely to find pleasure in working with the able and the unable, and frustration with the unwilling. Quincy also recognized the need to know the poor individually and not make assumptions based on appearance. He gave the poor opportunities and let them show in which category they belonged.
3. Begin with talents, not needs.
Third, we can increase eagerness and avoid making premature distinctions by practicing ABCD, “asset-based community development,” an approach based on John McKnight’s teaching about starting with the talents of those seeking help rather than their needs, and building on what they can do rather than what they can’t do. Michael Mather, in Having Nothing, Possessing Everything, describes a church that put ABCD into practice: instead of passing out dollars, it helped a seamstress, a shoe repairer, a musician, and many others to monetize their skills.
4. Recover the goodness of work.
Fourth, Bahnsen’s Full-Time points out that American culture generally (including church culture) undervalues work. Many see work as a means to the end of not working. Many miss the way God created both physical and intellectual work before that tragic day in Eden: Adam was a gardener and a namer. After the fall, work is harder but still a means to discover our meaning and purpose, and to glorify God by cultivating the world he created. When some of the wealthy among us stop working as soon as they can, it’s hard to insist upon its importance for everyone. High schools and colleges earn their funding only when graduates wake up eager to work each weekday.
5. Learn from the experienced.
Fifth, we can learn not only from Bahnsen and Mather but from other books past and present. I learned a lot during the 1990s while writing on these issues. The deacons in my church read Steve Corbett and Brian Fikkert’s When Helping Hurts: How to Alleviate Poverty Without Hurting the Poor. Note the practical subtitles on three more twenty-first-century books: Robert Lupton’s Toxic Charity: How Churches and Charities Hurt Those They Help — And How to Reverse It, Lawrence Mead’s From Prophecy to Charity: How to Help the Poor, and Howard Husock’s The Poor Side of Town — and Why We Need It.
“The unjust, rich or poor, live by making demands. The just, poor or rich, live by faith.”
While writing a preface to the thirtieth-anniversary edition of The Tragedy of American Compassion, I read Gene Dattel’s good history book, Reckoning with Race — and saw that my reckoning was inadequate. Books by John McWhorter (including Losing the Race) and Thomas Sowell (including The Thomas Sowell Reader) can also help. Books from the right and left such as Jason Riley’s Please Stop Helping Us and Elizabeth Wilkerson’s Caste provoke thinking about the consequences of slavery, segregation, and hating our neighbors.
None of those five steps will work, of course, unless we desire God. The unjust, rich or poor, live by making demands. The just, poor or rich, live by faith.
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Embracing Unpopular Truth in an Age of Political Correctness
Audio Transcript
Nearly thirty years ago, Pastor John delivered a lecture series on biblical manhood and womanhood. The relevance of the series you are about to hear for yourself. It was 1993. He was speaking to college students in Dayton, Tennessee. I only recently listened to this series. Today, we feature a clip from part four, brought to our attention by a couple, David and Katharina, who listen to APJ in Germany.
Katharina wrote us to say, “The other week, my husband and I celebrated our second wedding anniversary” — congratulations to you both — “and we went away for a weekend to refocus — reflecting on the year past, and planning for the year ahead. We wanted to listen to a sermon series to give us something to think about and ponder, and this time we picked Pastor John’s lecture series called ‘Manhood, Womanhood, and God,’ a series from 1993, almost three decades ago!”
Well, thank you for the prompt. Katharina drew our attention to part 4, titled, “Lovers of Truth in a Politically Correct and Gender-Leveling World.” She sent this clip, on political correctness, where Pastor John gives examples of slogans in his day — Orwellian slogans used to bias interpretation. The following audio is not perfect, but the point is so relevant, it’s worth a listen. Here’s Pastor John in 1993.
Let me read you a text from the teachings of Jesus that is a clarion call to you this morning to be courageous in speaking unpopular things. This comes from Matthew 10:24–25:
A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master. It is enough for the disciple to be like his teacher, and the servant like his master. If they have called the master of the house Beelzebul, how much more will they malign those of his household.
In other words, expect to be maligned in the world. Don’t assume, when you are called a name, that you’ve suddenly made a big mistake and have said something inappropriate. “Oh, I must go back and find another way to say it so they won’t malign me.” It says you’re going to be maligned. They spit on him. They crowned him with thorns. They called him names. They laughed him to scorn. Shall we be above our teacher? That’s the point here.
Expect Hostility
So have no fear of them, for nothing is covered that will not be revealed, or hidden that will not be known. What I tell you in the dark, say in the light, and what you hear whispered, proclaim on the housetops. And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell. Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father. But even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows. (Matthew 10:26–31)
Now, the point of that text is unmistakably clear because of the threefold repetition of the command. Verse 26: “Have no fear of them.” Verse 28: “Do not fear those who kill the body.” Verse 31: “Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.”
Jesus does not want any of you to be afraid. And the issue about fear here is what comes out of your mouth. He is asking you to speak clearly — that is, in the light, and forthrightly, and publicly (“on the housetops”) — things that will get you killed. Before your life is over, it is in all likelihood that you will be in jail for saying some of the things that I’ve said in this room in these past two days, or if not in jail, you will be the victim of random violence from certain communities in society. One of our pastors was shot at on the way home from church last Sunday night, just random, out of the towers across the street from the church. He heard the bullet go zing! and hit the ground beside him.
“I want you to be unafraid, in spite of what it’s going to cost you, to say things that are unpopular or dangerous.”
Now we have no idea. What was this? Why is this person doing this? Was it intentional? Police don’t have anything to say about it, but that doesn’t surprise me at all. Our church is known for a few controversial things. There are people who live in those towers who don’t like what we say. Guns are easily available. Some of them are not mentally stable. Now, if you decide, “Oh, I’m not going to live in a place like that — no way,” what are you? Who’s your master? What is this? Are you American, or are you Christian? Do you choose your house for safety, or do you choose your house for ministry? Jesus is real clear here: Be courageous. Be fearless. So, I want you to be unafraid this morning, in spite of what it’s going to cost you, to say things that are unpopular or dangerous.
Mature in Thinking
Now, in order to do that, you need to really exploit your time here at Bryan to become strong in the truth and strong in the word. “Brothers, do not be children in your thinking. Be infants in evil, but in your thinking be mature,” Paul says in 1 Corinthians 14:20. He wants you to use this time here at Bryan to grow more and more mature in your thinking, to send your roots deeper and deeper into the objective evidences of God’s truth, so that when you walk out of this place and scatter all over the nation and around the world, you go with a profound conviction about a few things in the world. You will always see through a glass darkly. You will never be totally comprehensive and have all the knowledge that God has. But there are a few things that you will know.
Let me give you some examples, now, of the kind of thing I think you need to be really shrewd about. I called this talk “Lovers of Truth in a Politically Correct and Gender-Leveling World,” because I’ve lived now in Minneapolis in these past couple of years, watching the way language is so manipulated by politically correct people to get their ideas into students’ minds by circumventing reasoned argument and using clever language.
Just a few examples. My son goes to high school in Minneapolis, and I go down there sometimes to see him or to do whatever. I went down a year ago and saw two posters. They were over every doorway leading to the stairwells, so every student had to pass under these posters. They were school-sanctioned posters — and they were politically correct, and they were gender-leveling and homosexuality-endorsing. But the way they did it was oblique, and remarkably shrewd, and clever, the kind of thing that students by and large in the ninth through the twelfth grades have not been trained to discern, and spot, and unpack, and make distinctions. That’s why you are here, to learn to do that.
‘One in Ten Gay’
Here was one of them — a big, beautiful poster with color, a rainbow kind of decoration: “One in ten people are gay, lesbian, or bisexual. They could be your brother, sister, parent, or friend.” That’s all the poster said. What’s that? What’s that message? It’s crafted in such a way so that if a parent went into a principal and said, “I don’t like that,” they’d say, “Well, what don’t you like about it? It doesn’t teach anything.”
Well, there are several problems with that simple little quote. Number one, the statistic is inflated — 10 percent. What’s the point of that? The point is to create a feeling in these students, “My goodness, every tenth person in the hall is gay!” And that is the feeling they want to create, because once you feel that, you have to say, “It just can’t be as bad as I feel it is. Something must be wrong with me.” That’s the thought.
Now, it’s inflated; the numbers aren’t 10 percent. No, the National Center for Health Statistics says 3, William Simon and the Kinsey Institute say 2 to 3, the Chicago study recently says 1 percent, maybe. Nobody knows for sure. But 10 percent was one of those inflated figures.
Then here’s the second thing wrong with it. There was no moral assessment of the behavior. It’s an emotional appeal. Your parent might be gay or bisexual. Now, when that thought enters a ninth grader’s mind — “My daddy might be a bisexual” — what’s he supposed to do with that? No teaching. No standards. Just the thought sown in the kid’s brain. I’ll tell you, what happens is that he might say, “It just can’t be,” but if it keeps coming back, he’ll say, “Well, if it were, he’s okay, and it must be okay.” And so you reduce the whole moral dimension of something being right or wrong. This is politically correct manipulation of language, to put ideas into minds by short-circuiting clear, critical thinking. And it happens in every newspaper almost every day, and on almost every television advertisement, and virtually all kinds of media efforts.
‘Respect Sees No . . .’
Here was the other poster. It was even more tricky, shorter. The poster said, “Respect sees no color, gender, sexual orientation, religion, disability.” That’s all it said. How could you complain about that? What do you have against respect? What are you, homophobic? What are you, against disabled people?
All on the Same Level
There are several problems with it. One is that it puts homosexuality in the same category with sexuality. Gender and sexual orientation are side-by-side. Respect sees no sexual orientation, and respect sees no gender, and no color. So, once you’ve got sexual orientation listed beside whether you’re male or female, and whether you’re black or white, then you can’t feel any more strongly about this distinction than you can about these distinctions.
Nobody feels that it’s right or wrong to act black or act white. Nobody feels that it’s right or wrong for a woman to act like a woman and a man to act like a man. And therefore, obviously, nobody should feel that it’s right or wrong for a person who has a homosexual orientation to act that way — and one who has a heterosexual orientation to act that way.
That’s the message of the poster. As soon as you line up those things without any distinction — gender, color, religion, sexual orientation — you’ve told the students, “Treat them on the same level.” They’re not on the same level. To be a male or a female is a holy and good thing created by God, and endorsed by God, and in God’s image. To act out a homosexual orientation and to act out a heterosexual orientation are profoundly different than that category. That’s the first problem.
No Positive Foundation
The second problem is the statement, “Respect sees no . . .” All that the public schools can do, since they have forsaken almost all — where I live anyway. I don’t know where it is where you are down here. From what I hear, it’s amazingly different, but it’ll be here eventually, in the public schools. So, the public schools have forsaken virtually all truth and all normative reality, behavior, and God-talk. So, they don’t have any positive foundations for respect. They can’t say to a student, “Respect somebody because you see in them this . . .” They say, “Respect sees no . . .” and then list off things that respect doesn’t see. So it leaves a big void underneath. Well, why should we respect anybody? Which is one of the reasons why there is so little respect among students for anything. The schools can’t provide them with a positive foundation.
“There’s a way to respect somebody no matter what they’ve done, because they’re created in God’s image.”
The foundation for respecting black and white, and male and female, and people of other religions, is that God has created all human beings in his image. There is a way to respect a murderer. There’s a way to respect a rapist. There’s a way to respect somebody no matter what they’ve done, because they’re created in God’s image. They are not snakes. They’re not frogs or horses. They are human beings. No matter what they’ve done — no matter their sexual orientation, no matter their sex, no matter their religion — there is a respect that one can accord them even if it might mean putting them in jail. You don’t put snakes in jail.
But you can’t say anything like that. You can’t provide a foundation for respect in the image of God. And so students are left with a groundless call to respect, and they say, “What’s the deal? Why shouldn’t I shoot him? He mouthed off to me.”
Respect Does See
And the third problem is that, in fact, respect does see gender and religion. And it makes a difference. There are courtesies and forms of respect that men owe to women that they don’t owe to men. The one I could get most agreement on is that you don’t go in her locker room; you go in his locker room. To tell these students that respect sees no gender is terribly destructive. It sees she’s a woman, and I will treat her differently than I treat these guys that I’m always treating in certain ways. I will offer certain courtesies. I will offer certain respect. I will acknowledge sexual differences that will mean I don’t take liberties with her that I might take with him. To tell them, “You don’t see it,” is wrong.
Same thing with religion. Respect looks at a Satanist who’s involved in ritual satanic abuse, and he looks at a Jewish person who’s trying to keep the Ten Commandments. Neither of them knows Jesus Christ. And he will respect this Jewish person more than this Satanic person. I’d stand up in any group and say that. Respect does have eyes for gender. It does have eyes for religion. They make a difference in the kind and form of respect that you give to a person.
Learn to Discern
Well, I just plead with you, take advantage of these years here at Bryan to become discerning men and women, so that when you read in the paper, or when you see a poster, or when you look at a billboard or you hear an advertisement, you are not blown about — they don’t insinuate ideas in your mind that don’t come through the critical filter of biblical thinking.
Be the kind of people who can go to a principal and explain to a PTA group or a principal just what I’ve explained to you — why those posters are destructive — even if they don’t agree with you. The world is dying for want of people to stand up and speak that kind of truth.
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When God Listens: His Ear and Our Access
Here’s our overview for this section, and this is the way I like to talk about it. It’s about hearing God’s voice, having his ear, and belonging to his body, the church. And here, I want to emphasize enjoying the gift. This is a gift that we often do not enjoy like we can. So I hope to remind myself and remind all of us here this evening, what a gift we have in prayer. And perhaps we would enjoy this gift a little bit more, incrementally more because of our focus here this evening.
To take a little half step back and do a little bigger review, and then come into prayer, we’re going to talk about Jesus’s habits first. I love talking about this. I don’t see a lot of people talking about this. I find this really exciting and life-giving. So we’ll talk about Jesus’s habits.
Then, we’ll talk in some more nitty-gritty and practicals about our habits of prayer. We’re going to break those up into prayer in secret (personal prayer), prayer constant (prayer that’s on the go and doesn’t cease), and then prayer together in company. And then finally, we’ll talk about fasting. Several years ago, to talk about fasting people would turn their heads. There was not a lot of interest in fasting. And then all of a sudden in recent years, there’s a lot of talk about fasting, intermittent fasting. We’re going to talk about Christian fasting, fasting for a spiritual purpose. So there’s our overview here for tonight’s session.
As a review, let me go to this J.C. Ryle quote again. I just love it. I wanted to come back to it to make sure that everyone hears it. I’m sure there’s somebody here who hasn’t been to the other sessions, so here’s a chance to hear it. Ryle says:
The means of grace are such as Bible reading, private prayer, and regularly worshiping God in church, wherein one hears the word taught and participates in the Lord’s Supper. I lay it down as a simple matter of fact that no one who is careless about such things must ever expect to make much progress in sanctification. I can find no record of any eminent saint who ever neglected them (the means of grace, including prayer). They are appointed channels through which the Holy Spirit conveys fresh supplies of grace to the soul, and strengthens the work which he has begun in the inward man . . . Our God is a God who works by means, and he will never bless the soul of that man who pretends to be so high and spiritual that he can get on without them.
So may we not pretend to be so high and spiritual as to get on without these glorious means. That is our focus tonight.
The Habits of Jesus
So first, let’s take a look at Jesus’s habits. Here’s a disclaimer: The Gospels are not intended just to teach us Jesus’s spiritual practices so we can imitate them. At the very heart of the Gospels is something Jesus does for us that we cannot imitate precisely. We cannot die for others, and definitely for the sins of the world. However, even in his death on the cross and resurrection at the very climax of the Gospels, there is something to imitate, just as he has washed our feet and died for us, so we are to love and serve each other in a cruciform pattern. There’s so much in the Gospels we can pick up from the life of Jesus, the God-man, and I think his spiritual habits are worth observing. Granted though, they are not the main point of the Gospels; that would be the gospel, Jesus.
But we have far more about Jesus’s personal spiritual rhythms than we do about anyone else in Scripture. Part of the reason for this is that we have four Gospels, and the Gospels are given in half of their space at least to tracking his life, especially his ministry, until he came to that final week. We have a lot about his movements and his patterns, but we don’t have that about Paul or Isaiah or Moses or even David. Many of these figures in the Bible that we have a lot of text about, we don’t get anything like some of these spiritual movements and rhythms like we have in the Gospels with Jesus. Let me show you.
Return and Retreat
First, let me give you the big picture about his rhythms of return and retreat, then we’ll talk about how he handled the word, then we’ll talk about prayer, and that moves us into the prayer topic for tonight. The word piece is a little bit of review, but it’s important because there’s this relationship between God speaking in his word and our response in prayer that we step on that foot again.
Here are some of Jesus’s rhythms of retreat and return. See how he draws back from the crowd and communes with his Father, and then that fills him and feeds him and strengthens him to then move back to the needs of others, back to the crowd to bless others. Mark 1:35 comes after a very busy day in Capernaum. They’re healing all sorts of people and they’re beating down the door outside Peter’s house.
And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed.
That’s going to be key language. We’ll see this “desolate place” again and again. That could be translated as “wilderness place.” He’s getting out of the town. He’s getting alone. He’s getting some solitary space to meet with his Father. So he gets out to a desolate place, and there he prays. This is really an amazing moment. The whole town, Peter’s hometown, is all excited about this guy that Peter has been following. So Peter has to be thrilled, thinking, “My whole town is wanting to hear from this Jesus that I’ve given my life to follow.” And Peter wakes up the next morning and is like, “Uh oh, where’s Jesus? He’s gone.” Peter must’ve been in a panic. They’re looking for him. Where is Jesus? They find that he’s gone out to pray, and when they get there to him, they’re like, “Jesus, where have you been?” He says, “I came out to pray. I need to move on to the next town” (Mark 1:38).
It must have been very difficult for Peter, but he had a mission and he moved out. He was filled up by his Father and he was ready to move on to the next town to spread the word. Next is Matthew 9:36–38. Now you see his approach to the crowds. It’s not that Jesus disdains people, humans, crowds.
When he saw the crowds, he had compassion for them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few; therefore pray earnestly to the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest.”
He’s going to be that, paradigmatically, in being sent out from heaven to die for us. And he prays for the disciples to be sent out and for others to be sent out that there be labor. There is this movement where he goes away to commune and then comes back to the crowds. Luke 5:15–16 says:
But now even more the report about him went abroad, and great crowds gathered to hear him and to be healed of their infirmities. But he would withdraw to desolate places and pray.
This pattern emerges. The crowd swells. They want to know more about him and he doesn’t hate them. He ministers to them, he blesses them, and he finds his time to withdraw and to pray.
The Son of God’s Daily Bread
Now quickly, consider the place of Scripture in Jesus’s life, because I don’t want to give the impression that he’s just a man who prayed and that prayer was not a kind of rhythm or response or relationship with the word from his Father. So here’s the place of Scripture in the life of Christ.
First, consider the wilderness where he faced temptations. Satan says, “If you are the Son of God, command the stone to become loaves of bread” (Matthew 4:3). And Jesus answers, “It is written, ‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but every word that comes from the mouth of God’” (Matthew 4:4). So Satan comes back to try to match him. He says, “All right, I hear that. Let me learn from it.” He’s clever. He’s going to try to match it. He says, “If you are the Son of God, throw yourself down, for it is written . . .” (Matthew 4:6). In other words, “If you want to quote the Writings, I’ll quote the Writings.” He says, “It is written, ‘He will command his angels concerning you and on their hands they will bear you up, lest you strike your foot against the stone’” (Matthew 4:6). Jesus is going to fight fire with fire. He says to him, “Again, it is written, ‘You shall not put the Lord your God to the test’” (Matthew 4:7).
Then Satan says, “All these I will give you if you will fall down and worship me” (Matthew 4:9). Then Jesus says, “Be gone, Satan, for it is written, ‘You shall worship the Lord your God and him only shall you serve’” (Matthew 4:10). So even the Son of God among us, God himself among us, bases his “Be gone, Satan,” not merely on his own authority with respect to his humanity, but he bases it on the revelation of God’s word. He says, “Be gone, Satan, for it is written.”
Continual Appeals to Scripture
Here’s Jesus in his hometown when he comes back from the wilderness. He comes to Nazareth where he was brought up. And it says “as was his custom” (Luke 4:16). This is habit language. He’s making a custom here to gather with the body. That belongs to last night, the habit of gathering. It says:
He came to Nazareth, where he had been brought up. And as was his custom, he went to the synagogue on the Sabbath day, and he stood up to read. And the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was given to him. He unrolled the scroll and found the place where it was written . . . (Luke 4:16–17).
He’s handling Scripture, reading it aloud. Then he reads, “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me” (Luke 4:17–19), and he reads the quote. Then it says:
And he rolled up the scroll and gave it back to the attendant and sat down. And the eyes of all in the synagogue were fixed on him. And he began to say to them, “Today this Scripture has been fulfilled in your hearing” (Luke 4:20–21).
He begins his ministry in coming back from the wilderness, coming to his hometown (Nazareth), by quoting Scripture. This is the fulfillment of Scripture. This is how he identifies his cousin, John the Baptist. He says:
This is he of whom it is written, “Behold, I send my messenger before your face, who will prepare your way before you” (Matthew 11:10).
And when Jesus clears the temple, he uses Scripture:
Jesus entered the temple and drove out all who sold and bought in the temple, and he overturned the tables of the money-changers and the seats of those who sold pigeons. He said to them, “It is written, ‘My house shall be called a house of prayer,’ but you make it a den of robbers” (Matthew 21:12–13).
The Word Applied, the Word Fulfilled
This is also how he rebukes the proud. Mark 7:5–9 says:
And the Pharisees and the scribes asked him, “Why do your disciples not walk according to the tradition of the elders, but eat with defiled hands?” And he said to them, “Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written, ‘This people honors me with their lips, but their heart is far from me; in vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’ You leave the commandment of God and hold to the tradition of men.” And he said to them, “You have a fine way of rejecting the commandment of God in order to establish your tradition!”
He’s a man who is soaked in Scripture, in what is written. Again and again, he’s referring to Isaiah and to what is written. He’s quoting Scripture. He’s referring to the commandments of God and holding those up against the traditions of men. He is saying, “That tradition is not in the word, that’s not in Scripture. But this is in Scripture.”
In Luke 20:16–18, it says:
When they heard [the parable of the wicked tenant], they said, “Surely not!” But he looked directly at them and said, “What then is this that is written: ‘The stone that the builders rejected has become the cornerstone’? Everyone who falls on that stone will be broken to pieces, and when it falls on anyone, it will crush him.”
Here are some other examples:
On the way to Calvary in John’s Gospel, as he turns the corner and heads with intentionality to Jerusalem, it is pronounced, “It is written in the Prophets. . .” (John 6:45).
In John 8, he says, “In your Law it is written . . .” (John 8:17)
In John 10, he says, “Is it not written in your law?” (John 10:34).
In John 12, it says, “Just as it is written . . .” (John 12:14),
In John 15, he says, “The word that is written in their Law must be fulfilled” (John 15:25).
He says, “The Son of Man goes as it is written of him” (Matthew 26:24).
In Luke 18, he says, “We are going up to Jerusalem and everything that is written about the Son of man by the prophets will be accomplished” (Luke 18:31).Living by What Is Written
So here’s my summary about the function of the written word, Scripture, in the life of Jesus. Jesus didn’t have his own print Bible to page through in private. You get this, right? They didn’t have the printing press until 500 years ago. To produce books was a great cost. People didn’t have personal copies of books. So it’s almost certain Jesus just doesn’t have a personal copy of Scripture. He heard it read at the synagogue, he heard it in his mother’s singing. He could rehearse what he himself had memorized. Even though he didn’t have his own print Bible to page through, let there be no confusion about the central place of God’s written word in his life. God himself in human flesh lived by what was written.
I came across this quote from Sinclair Ferguson recently. This comes from his book, The Holy Spirit, and he’s talking about the role of the Holy Spirit in the earthly life of Jesus. And he makes this comment relative to Scripture:
Jesus’s intimate acquaintance with Scripture did not come [magically from heaven] during the period of his public ministry. It was grounded, no doubt on his early education, but nourished by long years of personal meditation.
“God himself in human flesh lived by what was written.”
This is what it means for God himself to be among us as a human. Hebrews 5:8 talks about him learning obedience through what he suffered. Luke 2:52 talks about him growing in wisdom and knowledge, and this is the wisdom and knowledge he grew in. It was God’s written word in Scripture, which then formed a life of prayer.
The Place of Prayer in the Life of Christ
The place of prayer then. So given that picture of how Scripture functions in the life of Jesus, what’s the place of prayer in the life of Christ? This is really rich. Let’s start with Jesus and his prayer alone. I’ll put the cards on the table. I want you to hear the application here. Hear echoing and imitation as we talk about his prayer alone, his prayer with others, and what he’s teaching his disciples about prayer. This is all very relevant and applicable to us.
Jesus and Private Prayer
We already saw Mark 1:35. This is Matthew 14:23, which says:
And after he had dismissed the crowds, he went up on the mountain by himself to pray. When evening came, he was there alone . . .
Even though he has these 12 and they were with him essentially all the time. Here it’s said in particular that he went up alone. This time, not even Peter, James, or John are coming with him. He goes alone to commune with his Father in prayer. Mark 6:46–47 says:
And after he had taken leave of them, he went up on the mountain to pray. And when evening came, the boat was out on the sea, and he was alone on the land.
And you know there’s a great miracle coming. John 6:15 says:
Jesus withdrew again to the mountain by himself.
I’m suspecting he goes there to pray. And as one who is quoting regularly what is written, when he prays to his Father, he prays in light of what he knows to have been revealed in Scripture. Luke 6:12 says:
In these days he went out to the mountain to pray, and all night he continued in prayer to God.
Now this context here is him choosing the disciples. Jesus didn’t have one night a week where he always missed sleep for prayer. I’m aware of two occasions. It happened at the beginning of his ministry when he was choosing his disciples, and at the end of his ministry the night before he died when the disciples were all ready to sleep and he was praying in the garden of Gethsemane. I don’t know that Jesus had any sleep that night before he died. So Jesus did have a regular pattern of sleep, and yet he was ready to miss sleep if he needed to for communion with his Father. It wasn’t all the time, but it was on some particularly pressing occasions. That was Jesus praying alone.
Jesus and Public Prayer
Now, how about praying with his men, or as his disciples hear him praying? And this occurs regularly in his ministry. Luke 6:21 says:
When Jesus also had been baptized and was praying . . .
This is when he was being baptized. This is being observed by his disciples. They’re hearing that he’s praying. Or consider Matthew 6:5–13 when he taught them how to pray. This is the Lord’s prayer. In Matthew 6, it’s part of the teaching during the Sermon on the Mount, but in Luke 11:1–4 the disciples came to him after hearing his prayers, and they wanted to learn. They asked him to teach them. We’ll get to that.
Matthew 19:13 says that children are brought to him that he may lay his hands on them and pray. So the word is going out and people think, “Hey, this is Jesus!” He was the one who would lay his hands on your children and bless your children and pray for your children. He’s a man of prayer. He’s a man who loves children. He’s a man who will pray for them. So they brought children to him because he was known this way. Mark 9:29 says:
And he said to them, “This kind [demon oppression] cannot be driven out by anything but prayer.”
Luke 9:18 says:
Now it happened that as he was praying alone, the disciples were with him.
That’s how much he was with his men, how much he invested in these guys. Even at times when he was praying alone, the disciples were with him. So how does that work? Is it that he kind of goes off to the side and has a prayer time? Or is he so used to these guys that it feels like being alone compared to the crowd and others?
Lord, Teach Us to Pray
This is a time when his men are observing him or hearing him pray. The disciples were with him, and because they see the kind of man of prayer he is and these rhythms of prayer he has, they ask him, “Lord, teach us to pray” (Luke 11:1). He’s praying in a certain place. And when he finished — somehow they knew he finished, either he raised his head or they heard him praying and he stopped — they said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray.” They’ve heard him pray. It’s winsome, it’s contagious. They want to pray like this man. And they ask him for his instruction. Luke 9:28 says:
Now about eight days after these sayings he took with him Peter and John and James and went up on the mountain to pray.
The night before he died, he said to Peter, “I have prayed for you that your faith may not fail” (Luke 22:32). The God-man prays for his disciples that their faith will not fail. John 17 may be the deepest chapter in all the Bible, and it’s Jesus praying. It says:
He lifted up his eyes to heaven and said, “Father, the hour has come . . .” (John 17:1).
All of John 17 is Jesus’s prayer. Lastly, Matthew 26 is in the garden of Gethsemane. It says:
Then Jesus went with them to a place called Gethsemane, and he said to his disciples, “Sit here, while I go over there and pray” (Matthew 26:36) . . . And going a little farther he fell on his face and prayed, saying, “My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will” (Matthew 26:39) . . . Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak (Matthew 26:41).
And again, for the second time, he went away and prayed. He was leaving them again. And he went away and prayed for a third time. This is how he waits for the events to begin to transpire when he’s taken into custody. These are the last few moments when he could run. This is the moment to feel the weight, to suffer beforehand with the weight of what it will be like to be at the cross, to ponder what he’s doing. This doesn’t catch him off guard. There would be less virtue and power in the cross if it caught him off guard. The cross doesn’t catch him off guard. He knows exactly what’s happening and he wrestles with it. He owns it. He solidifies his will for the joy set before him and he does that through prayer.
Jesus and Fasting
Jesus also talks about fasting and there are two key texts on fasting, both are in Matthew’s Gospel, which will accompany prayer as we’ll talk about. He says:
And when you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites, for they disfigure their faces that their fasting may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, that your fasting may not be seen by others but by your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you (Matthew 6:16–18).
This pairs with his talk about praying in secret, as we’ll see in just a minute. And he says “when you fast.” This is not an if to his disciples. He expects there to be occurrences of fasting. Matthew 9:15 says:
Can the wedding guests mourn as long as the bridegroom is with them? The days will come when the bridegroom is taken away from them, and then they will fast.
So Jesus says we will fast. When they fast, he assumes we’ll fast and he says we will. The bridegroom, Jesus, will be taken away and then they will fast.
Instructions on Seclusion
So far we have seen Jesus’s pattern of retreat and return, how Jesus shaped his life with the word, how Jesus prayed alone with his disciples, how Jesus taught his disciples to pray, and then Jesus also teaches his disciples the same kind of pattern of withdrawing at appropriate times for communion and rest and then going back to the crowds to minister. Jesus withdrew with his disciples, bringing them with him. He’s teaching them this pattern. Luke 9:10 says:
On their return the apostles told him all that they had done. And he took them and withdrew apart to a town called Bethsaida.
Mark 6:31–32 is more direct. He says:
And he said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while.” For many were coming and going, and they had no leisure even to eat. And they went away in the boat to a desolate place by themselves.
In John 11, it says:
Jesus therefore no longer walked openly among the Jews, but went from there to the region near the wilderness, to a town called Ephraim, and there he stayed with the disciples.
Matthew 6:11 says:
When you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.
Here’s my summary. In receiving his Father’s voice in Scripture, in praying alone and with company, and at times when faced with particularly pressing concerns, adding the tool of fasting, Jesus sought communion with his Father. His habits were not demonstrations of sheer will and discipline. His acts of receiving the word and responding in prayer were not ends in themselves. In these blessed means, he pursued the end of knowing and enjoying his Father, communing with his Father in prayer.
The God Who Speaks and Listens
We’ve been talking implicitly all along, but now let’s talk explicitly about our habits of prayer. There are three foundational truths here before a few concrete specifics and suggestions. First, our God is not only communicative but listens. The speaking God is also the God who listens. “God Who Listens” is a good song by Chris Tomlin. Now, he doesn’t only listen, he first speaks. Sometimes we can get this thing back and forth in our modern day. It’s spoken of in therapeutic, psychological terms. People say, “I just need somebody to listen to me. If God will just listen. If people just listen to me. I need listening.” Yes, and you need teaching and divine revelation along with listening.
There are two things that are happening. He speaks and he listens. Our God is a God who listens and he listens in light of his speech. Prayer is a conversation we didn’t start. God speaks first. We respond in light of his word. We talked yesterday about dialing up. Who’s going to dial up? Well, actually we’re not going to dial up. God has dialed up. So let’s pray to him together in light of his revelation. And the great purpose of prayer is that God would be our joy. We pray for things and we pray for help. We pray for assistance and we pray for blessing. At the end of the day, we pray to God himself. We want more of him. He is the greatest gift he gives. His Son is the greatest gift he gives. And so we pray to know him, enjoy him, and have him even as we want to have and see him through blessings he may give.
We’ll talk in just a minute about how we would work things into our prayer life other than just asking. This is C.S. Lewis on prayer, and it’s about the asking part of prayer, which is where the word “pray” comes from. We think of asking things from God and we should be careful not to only ask stuff from him as if he’s a big gift dispenser in the sky. Lewis says:
Prayer, in the sense of asking for things, is a small part of it; confession and penitence are its threshold, adoration its sanctuary, the presence and vision and enjoyment of God its bread and wine.
Our Habits of Prayer
Let me break these out with various texts and concepts as our prayer in secret (private prayer), as in the Ryle quote. Then, we will talk about the language in the New Testament that you’re probably familiar with, “praying without ceasing.” What is that? And then, we’ll focus on praying with company with a few suggestions on how to pray together with company in ways that might be most effective in the life of the church.
Praying in Secret
Here’s prayer in secret again, as we saw:
And when you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites. For they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at the street corners, that they may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you (Matthew 6:5–6).
This does not mean never ever pray in public. That’s part of what we do as a church. It would be a blessed thing to pray for someone. It’s very good for others to hear your prayers all the time in our families. People should be hearing our prayers all the time. But don’t let prayer become something that is only heard by others so that there’s never this prayer in secret. And don’t let it just be prayer on the go, but have a particular time set aside where nobody else is listening and you’re not just begging for help on the way as you go through life, but you have time set aside to commune with God, as we saw in this pattern in Jesus’s life.
It’s great to find a space where you can pray out loud. This has been something that’s fresh recently in my life that the kids have gotten old enough now. They’re in school five days a week. I have some work from home days now because on the other side of COVID there are some fresh patterns, and we have a blended office, so some days you’re home. There are times I’m just at home by myself and I can kneel in our living room and I can just pray out loud. For me, it helps me to pray it out loud so I don’t kind of trail off. Sometimes when I’m just in my head praying, I kind of trail off. I don’t finish sentences and thoughts, or my prayers can begin to wander into thoughts because they were thoughts to begin with. I find it very helpful to be able to pray out loud and in secret. We need to find space for that.
My suggestion here, as I mentioned yesterday, is this pattern of beginning with the Bible, moving to meditation, and then polishing with prayer. The thought there being, we want to hear from God first and reading is moving at the typical pace of a written text. So begin by reading his word. And then meditation is about pausing, pondering, and seeking to feel the weight and significance of a particular part of that text on the soul. And then, instead of doing a hard pivot to praying what you want to pray for the day, let what God has been speaking through his word and you’ve been meditating on be the theme, the inspiration, and the catalyst for your prayers.
You could say, “God, I’ve seen your Son is glorious in this text. I pray that you would help me to continue seeing that, help my wife to see it, help my kids to see it, help my coworkers to see it, and help the nations see it.” I typically move in a pattern from self to wife to kids and family, then coworkers in church and the Twin Cities, and then to the nations. I kind of move out in concentric circles. But you find your way and what makes sense to you as you think about circles of prayer. I love to have that prayer time come out of being freshly inspired by time in the word.
Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, Supplication
Then there is the ACTS acronym. This is not proprietary or special. You’ve probably heard of this. I think it’s very helpful. I think we tend to forget without reminders like this about the other aspects of prayer other than petition. Lewis is talking about petition being a small part of prayer. So here’s what ACTS refers to: adoration, confession, thanksgiving, and supplication. Supplication is there. It’s part of prayer, it’s important.
Come into a prayer time and begin by adoring God. There is something so right, so precious, so enjoyable about adoring God. It’s fitting and he’s worthy of it, for us to pause and adore him and then move from that adoration as we rehearse his glory, his attributes, and his worth to a sense of self and the need for the confession of our sins, and how we are not living up to the standard, and how we have we have sinned against him. Then we move to thanking him. Thank him that he’s drawn near in Christ. Thank him for the many blessings in our lives. And then we ask, if you want to go through this pattern of ACTS.
I get asked this question a lot, but I think the general pattern in Scripture and in the New Testament in particular for Christian prayer is to the Father through the Son — that is, in Jesus’s name — and by the Spirit. So prayer is Trinitarian, but it’s not necessarily symmetrical.
We don’t pray to the Spirit through the Father by the Son. You pray to the Father through the Son by the Spirit. And all three persons of the Godhead are God in their own right. So it is fitting and wonderful to pray to particular members of the Trinity. You don’t have to only address the Father, you can pray Jesus prayers where you pray to him. You can pray to the Spirit. And in particular that can be fitting where there’s certain times where we know of the roles that the persons of the Godhead take in the economy of salvation. So if we’re praying for a particular thing, you may want to pray to that particular person. However, the general pattern is to the Father through the Son, the one person of the Trinity who became human and died for us, and doing that by the power of the Spirit who dwells in us. Don’t be shackled into thinking you need to pray the same number of prayers and spend the same number of minutes praying to each person in the Trinity.
Prayer and Fasting
And then, prayer is to be accompanied on occasion with fasting. We’ll say more about this in a few minutes, but let me just say there are normal daily prayers and there are times in our lives where we feel a particular desperation. Fasting is a tool for the desperate. You cannot fast all the time, you’d die. You can pray every day. Prayer goes with the breath. You have to keep breathing and keep praying. You can go without food for a little bit, not all the time.
So fasting is a special measure. When you have a particular burden, some particular desperation, and you want to say, “Oh Father, I’m so desperate here,” more than just the typical prayer — which is wonderful and blessed and prayed in confidence because of Jesus — then you can add a particular demonstration of desperation in fasting. We’ll say more about fasting here in just a moment.
Praying Without Ceasing
I have four texts that talk about praying without ceasing or being constant or continual in prayer:
Rejoice always, pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:16–17).
Be constant in prayer (Romans 12:12).
Continue steadfastly in prayer (Colossians 4:2).
Praying at all times in the Spirit . . . (Ephesians 6:18).I don’t think this means you stay on your knees all day and you never stop praying. I think it means don’t give up praying. Don’t have trials come into your life where you forget to pray or become so discouraged that you don’t pray. Continuing it, persevere in prayer. And as you go throughout the day, as you live, develop patterns of prayer or anchor points of prayer.
Maybe you think about your car as being a reminder on your commute in the morning, getting in the car in the morning. This is a reminder to pray as you start out on the commute. Or there could be other ways. We do this with meals as we sit down. We take that as an occasion to pray. That’s a good thing. That’s a good habit. There could be other habits of prayer like that so that we would have this sense of ongoing prayer, constant prayer in our life, which doesn’t mean that we don’t ever do our work or don’t ever give any focus somewhere else. Be freed from that burden.
There can be a spirit of dependence, yes, as you go throughout the day, and your attention is limited. You can only really focus on a thing at a time. And God means for you to do your work and your calling and your parenting and interact with your spouse and do what you’re called to do. And we can develop these rhythms that are such that it would be as if we never stop praying. We pray without ceasing. We’re constant in prayer because it marks our life like it did for Jesus.
Praying with Company
Before we finish with fasting let’s focus here on praying with company. I call praying with company the high point of prayer, which is in no way to minimize private prayer or prayer on the go. But again, as we talked about with fellowship, when God’s people come together, there is a power. God loves to brood by his Spirit on the gathering of his people. And when we sync up our schedules and our lives and our habits to pray together, it is significant. There is multiplying blessings to us and through the gathering in praying together.
Jesus does this, and we see it in the life of the early church where they gather to pray. My recommendation is to make it regular with spouse, with family, and with people in a small group or Bible study. There can be prayer gatherings in the rhythms of the church. An idea with a time that’s set aside as a prayer time is to begin with a brief word of Scripture. It might just be a single verse that someone reads. If there’s a prayer leader for the gathering, they could just say, “Let me read this paragraph and let’s pray together.” That could be one way to get into prayer time to remember that we’re not the one dialing up, we’re praying in response to God’s word. Some word of Scripture can be the catalyst for our group gathering in prayer.
I also recommend limiting your share time. I try to do this in our community group. We will gather in our time to pray and people will start sharing. Are there any prayer requests? People start sharing and the clock is ticking and they are sharing so well, and we are just bearing down on the time when they’ve got to go because they have to have kids in bed for school the next day. One strategy, if you’re leading a prayer time, is to start with a little Scripture and then say, “Does anybody have a really pressing request you need to talk to us about, or can we just talk to the Lord in prayer about these things?” And you know what, in all our prayers, God already knows it.
So if you want to give some extra information in your prayer to him so that other people understand what you’re praying for, God is really fine with that. I’m pretty sure about that. So for us to get into prayer time and go ahead and go directly Godward and be able to share as we pray can be a good thing in our praying with company.
Utilize Short Prayers
At times, I love to remind folks you don’t have to pray long. Jesus commends short prayers. When he gave us the model prayer, it’s only 50 words. Feel free to hop around. You can pray for something in a focused way and none of us here are going to think you’re unspiritual if you pray too short. In fact, we may think you’re unspiritual if you pray too long, depending on the setting.
Pray without show and with others in mind. This is the last tension in corporate prayer. We don’t want to pray for show and yet when it’s corporate prayer, you’re praying for other people. So there’s no need to pretend it’s just you and God. It’s not. It’s corporate prayer. The very nature of corporate prayer is that we’re doing this together, so it’s appropriate to both seek to be authentic and real before him, and at the same time, you know others are listening and you’re leading them together with you Godward in prayer.
Inducements to Communal Prayer
I’ll just end with some incentives here about the benefits of praying with company. Why not just make all your prayer, private prayer? In praying with company, I think there are answers to prayer that we get in praying with each other that we may not get otherwise if we didn’t do so in company. I think there’s growth in our prayers. When we hear others pray, we grow in the way that we pray. It’s a wonderful thing to pray in private.
We have to pray in private, but I think there’s more growth that happens as we hear others, as we hear their perspective, as we hear how they’re wording it, the angles of approach to God, what they say to God, their concepts. We get to know those persons well too in the fellowship of the church as we hear their heart in prayer. That draws out something in that person you may not hear otherwise when they come before God’s face in prayer. We get to know them better. And then, most of all, you get to know Jesus better.
I think there are aspects of our Savior that God means for us to know through hearing those in the prayers of others in the corporate gatherings. As we know others, we get to see aspects of Jesus, his grace, how he’s drawn near to them, how he’s blessed them, how he’s shown them grace upon grace.
And then lastly, the great purpose of prayer in secret, prayer on the go, and prayer with company is that God in Christ would be our reward.
Questions and Answers
Are there any questions here on prayer before I finish up with some brief thoughts about fasting? Any burning questions on prayer? If it’s not burning, you don’t have to make one up.
Do you have a favorite resource on prayer?
Yes, my favorite is Tim Keller’s book on prayer. I think it’s Tim Keller’s best book. It’s at a different level from his other stuff. It is so well done. It’s so steeped in John Owen and the Puritans. I love Keller’s book. Years ago, I loved Paul Miller’s book called A Praying Life. It was so good. There’s an old Spurgeon book called The Power of Prayer in a Believer’s Life. It’s really good. I know that people recommend E.M. Bounds. Actually I haven’t heard people talk about E.M. Bounds recently, but go look up E.M. Bounds for a lot of resources on prayer.
The Place of Fasting
The last point is on fasting. At no place in all his 13 letters, does the apostle Paul command Christians to fast. Neither does Peter in his letters, nor John, nor any other book in the New Testament. There are no commands to fast. And yet, for 2,000 years Christians have fasted. One expression among others of healthy, vibrant Christians and churches has been the practice of fasting. However much it may seem to be a lost art today, fasting has endured for two millennia as a means of Christ’s ongoing grace for his church. So why then, if Christians are not commanded to fast, do we still fast?
There’s Jesus’s example as we’ve already seen. He fasted in the wilderness. He said, not if you fast, but when. And Jesus promised, “then they will fast” (Matthew 9:15). So the words of Christ have an effect on the church, though it’s not a direct command to fast because they will, and he says “when you fast.” The early Christians fasted. They fulfilled what Jesus said would happen. Acts 13:1–3 says:
Now there were in the church at Antioch prophets and teachers, Barnabas, Simeon who was called Niger, Lucius of Cyrene, Manaen a lifelong friend of Herod the tetrarch, and Saul. While they were worshiping the Lord and fasting, the Holy Spirit said, “Set apart for me Barnabas and Saul for the work to which I have called them.” Then after fasting and praying they laid their hands on them and sent them off.
It’s a pattern in the early church. Acts 14:23 says:
And when they had appointed elders for them in every church, with prayer and fasting (notice the pairing) they committed them to the Lord in whom they had believed.
Inward Fasting
Overall, the New Testament may have little to say about fasting, but what it does say is important. And what it doesn’t say, I think it’s leaning heavily on the Old Testament. The Hebrew Scriptures do not speak the final word on fasting, but they’re vital in preparing us to hear the final word from Christ. I have a summary for you of three groups of passages on fasting in the Old Testament. I count about 25 references to fasting, situations of fasting, or narratives about fasting. Let me summarize them for you in three groups.
First, there is inward fasting. There’s an inward focus in fasting to express repentance. God’s people fast to express a heart of repentance before him. They realize their sin, typically not small indiscretions or lapses in judgment, but deep and prolonged rebellion, and they come seeking his forgiveness. This happens in 1 Samuel 7:3, which says:
And Samuel said to all the house of Israel, “If you are returning to the Lord with all your heart, then put away the foreign gods and the Ashtaroth from among you and direct your heart to the Lord and serve him only, and he will deliver you out of the hand of the Philistines.” So the people of Israel put away the Baals and the Ashtaroth, and they served the Lord only. Then Samuel said, “Gather all Israel at Mizpah, and I will pray to the Lord for you.” So they gathered at Mizpah and drew water and poured it out before the Lord and fasted on that day and said there, “We have sinned against the Lord” (1 Samuel 7:3–7).
I’m not going to go through all these texts, but this is the first scenario: to express repentance. And you can see fasts expressing repentance in 1 Kings 21, Nehemiah 9, Daniel 9, Jonah 3, Joel 1–2. Old Testament saints often expressed an inward heart of repentance to God, not only in words, but with the exclamation point of fasting. It’s kind of a declaration of particular repentance. Such fasting did not earn God’s forgiveness but demonstrated the genuineness of their contrition. It’s like they’ve reached for some extra help to express the intensity of their repentance.
Outward Fasting
Then there is outward fasting. Then there’s an outward kind of fasting, in order to grieve hard providences. You can see this on several occasions. Fasting can give voice to mourning, grieving, or lamenting difficult providences. This is the end of 1 Samuel when the first anointed king, Saul, dies:
And they took their bones and buried them under the tamarisk tree in Jabesh and fasted seven days (1 Samuel 31:13).
They were mourning for the death of their king. 2 Samuel 1 is the next chapter here:
Then David took hold of his clothes and tore them, and so did all the men who were with him. And they mourned and wept and fasted until evening for Saul and for Jonathan his son and for the people of the Lord and for the house of Israel, because they had fallen by the sword (2 Samuel 1:11–12).
“Fasting expresses to God our pointed need for God.”
Hard providences call for fasting. Esther fasts when the king’s decree goes out. In Psalm 35:13, David talks about wearing sackcloth and afflicting himself with fasting in his grieving. Psalm 69:10 says, “He humbled his soul with fasting.” Fasting gave voice to the pain and sorrow of sudden and severe outward circumstances and represented a heart of faith toward God in the midst of great tragedies.
Forward Fasting
So there is inward fasting (repentance), outward fasting (hard providences), and then the last one here is fasting forward, to seek God’s favor like traveling mercies, or something like that. But it’s with a particularly acute sense. Fasting can have a kind of forward orientation in seeking God’s guidance or future favor. This is like Acts 13:2, when they’re worshiping the Lord and fasting and the Spirit says to set them apart, and they pray and fast to send them out and send them forward.
Ezra is an example of this. He proclaims the fast:
Then I proclaimed a fast there, at the river Ahava, that we might humble ourselves before our God, to seek from him a safe journey for ourselves, our children, and all our goods . . . So we fasted and implored our God for this, and he listened to our entreaty (Ezra 8:21–23).
It’s similar for Nehemiah. Fasting often served as an intensifier alongside forward prayers for God’s guidance, traveling mercies, and special favors. So let me bring it all to a close here with the thread that comes together in fasting.
A Prayer Amplifier
This is not all the Old Testament has to say about fasting. For instance, there are correctives to fasting in Isaiah 58 and Jeremiah 14 and Zechariah 7–8. But the three general categories hold. Fasting expresses inward repentance, grieves outward tragedies, or seeks God’s forward favor. And a common thread holds all true fasting together. Fasting, like prayer, is always Godward. Faithful fasting, whatever the conditions of its origin, is rooted in human lack and need for God. We need his help, his favor, his guidance. We need his rescue and comfort from trouble. We need his forgiveness and grace because we have sinned.
We need God. He, not human circumstances or activity, is the common denominator of fasting. Fasting expresses to God our pointed need for God. We have daily needs and we have unusual needs. We pray for daily bread, and in times of special need, we reach for the prayer amplifier called fasting.
Christian fasting is also unique. I don’t want to give the wrong impression by going back to the Old Testament for background that we’re going back to the Old Testament for our fasting. Christians have one final and essential piece to add: the depth and clarity and surety we now have in Christ. As we express to God our special needs for him, whether in repentance or in grief or for his favor, we do so with granite under our feet. When our painful sense of lack tempts us to focus on what we do not have, fasting reminds us now of what we do. Already, God has come for us in Christ. Already, Christ has died and risen. Already, we are his by faith. Already, we have his Spirit in us, through us and for us. Already, our future is secure. Already, we have a home.
In fasting, we confess we are not home yet and remember that we are not homeless. In fasting, we cry out for our groom and remember that we have his covenant promises. In fasting, we confess our lack and remember that the one with every resource has pledged his help in his perfect timing. John Piper says:
Christian fasting is unique among all the fasting of the world. It is unique in that it expresses more than longing for Christ or hunger for Christ’s presence. It is a hunger that is rooted in — based on — an already present, experienced reality of Christ in history and in our hearts.
In Christ, fasting is not just a Godward expression of our need. It is not just an admission that we’re not full; fasting is a statement in the very midst of our need that we’re not empty. In both prayer and fasting, God himself in Christ is our reward.
Questions and Answers
Are there any questions about prayer or fasting as we wrap up?
I get the sense from what you’re saying here that fasting is more withdrawn and alone and purposeful. Yet often, I’ve heard from church, if you fast, you’re just going to quit eating and go about your business. I see that as two different perspectives, am I right or wrong?
Well, as you were asking the question, it made me think. What I don’t talk about here is our fasting together. Fasting can be done as a fellowship aspect. We know Jesus’s words about fixing yourself up when you fast and not making it obvious that you’re fasting so that you have your righteousness exercised before others. But there can be communal fast. That’s very biblical as well. A church can call a fast for a particular need, like finishing the building program, or getting another pastor or elder, or meeting the financial gap, or whatever it may be. A church can call a fast together. Elders often do this. We’ve done this as pastors together with our church, feeling some particular needs and saying, “Brothers, we’re going to fast together.” A corporate fast is not something you keep secret from each other. You’re doing it together.
On the question you have about whether it’s withdrawn or you go about your business, I maybe have two things to say to that. On the one hand, I think what I’m advocating here is mostly that you go about your normal life. However, it’s also good to think about what you’re going to do at the time you’re not eating. We spend a lot of time eating. It happens three times a day for many of us and the time adds up. So in wanting your fast to be spiritual and not just going hungry, it is really important.
A lot of times the fasting that is talked about nowadays is trending and it’s a hot topic on Google or whatever, like intermittent fasting. That’s about weight management and it’s about health. It’s not spiritually-intended fasting. So you might do some form of Christian intermittent fasting if there’s Christian purpose in it, if there’s a particular prayer, if there’s desperation to God. But if it’s just weight management, like a diet or exercise, then that’s not really the essence of what we’re talking about here with Christian fasting.
Christian fasting has a Christian purpose. One way you might express that is setting aside some time when you’re not eating to have some reflection over God’s word, to spend that time in prayer. In fasting, being accompaniment to prayer, it would sure be a shame to fast and not pray. And when we’re not eating, hunger should be a reminder for us to pray, to take the ache in the stomach and turn that into a spoken ache Godward. That’s the kind of fittingness between prayer and fasting. We’re cultivating or giving space to a physical ache that corresponds to the kind of ache in the soul, the desperation for God’s help, God’s deliverance, and God himself in the circumstance.
I get how we don’t want to do this for like bodily improvement, but what about those people that maybe have a job that is very physically exerting and it’s very difficult to go without food? Or what about the person who has anemia or other health issues that really wants to fast in light of all of the things you talked about but isn’t able to? Are there times where you have to really look at bodily circumstances? Do you have anything to say to that?
That’s a great question. I should have accounted for that in my slides. There’s a great quote by Martin Lloyd Jones where he talks about how the impulse for fasting can be applied to many other good things. There may be particular health conditions. I’m not a doctor, I don’t know them. There may be particular health conditions that you need to be aware of and you can’t go without food for whatever reason. God knows that. He’s aware of that and you can go without other good things. So some people talk about fasting from social media or fasting from television or fasting from some other good gift, some entertainment or some blessing you normally would have and it’s going to be part of your life, but you’re going without it for spiritual purpose in seeking God’s particular help, or in desperation, or even in putting some good pattern into your life.
Maybe someone says, “I don’t want to be leaning so heavily on my phone all the time, so I’m going to set aside time for a phone fast.” So there are other manifestations of the principle of fasting from something good for the sake of something better, to turn the lack of a good thing into a Godward ache. So it would not have to be going without food. But the reason in Christianity that fasting is going without food and that the principle doesn’t start as picking your good thing and going without your good thing is that food is such a basic part of this life. It’s such an obvious good thing. “Give us this day our daily bread” (Matthew 6:11). It’s such a regular part of our lives and we feel that ache in the stomach when we go without food for a while. So there may be medical conditions where you simply cannot.
Also, it might be worth asking ourselves if the abundance of food that we have has made it so that we have conditioned our system in a way to always get food. There’s potential resilience that humans may have — that I think humans do have in normal circumstances — if we trained ourselves to go a little bit longer without food. So there could be some who feel like, “Oh man, three hours into my fast, I can’t do it any longer.” I would say, “Well, that’s great you did three hours. What if you tried four hours next time and five hours the next time? What if you tried to build up resilience?” Some of us may need to build up metabolic resilience or something like that.
But in Scripture it only talks about fasting from food?
Correct, so far as I am aware.
Can you draw out the difference between the Pharisee praying on the corner and public prayer in our gallery, because both are public. What is the difference between those?
The potential danger is that it could be similar. Our hope is that it’s not. I think the picture there of the Pharisee praying on the corner is that Jesus saying they are praying to be seen by others. That’s the motivation. That’s what is leading to it. That’s the heart and that’s bringing about the prayer on the corner in public. This is a good reminder for all of us who not only pray in gatherings of the church and pray from the front here, but in our prayer times as a family, if it’s with a spouse, if it’s in a community group or a class, that we check our hearts on that.
Are we just praying to be heard by others? Even if it’s a really small circle and it’s not on a public street where there are dozens or hundreds, I really want to impress these few people right here. That’s a good thing to check in our hearts. I know our motivations are rarely digital, that it’s either this or not that, but Jesus’s teaching and his reminder is good for us there. It’s a particularly thorny issue to do public prayer in the sense that our hearts might drift into wanting to impress people. So check that, pray against that, and then focus on God. Pray in the context of other people for their good and blessing and trust that the blood of the Lamb covers a lot of our indiscretions and mistakes and tainted hearts.